Posts Tagged ‘love’

When a woman gets dumped, her life falls apart and she spends weeks crying on the shoulders of her sympathetic girlfriends. When a man gets dumped, he shrugs his shoulders, switches on the television, salutes his new-found freedom and downs a can of beer.

This is something we all think and hear, but NO, it isn’t true. Despite of the sex, both sit and weep.

All of you get into a relationship because you feel euphoric love for your partner. You love whatever your partner does. That love makes you feel very good. You experience great joy and feel special. All this changes over a period of time for some of you.

Some or the other day are relationship ends, then what? There starts the period of the ‘so called’ trying to get over. Here, 90 per cent of the people sit as if they have committed a crime of a lifetime. All gulped up, emo-like, tears falling, wondering what to do (not to get over but rather to get back).

It’s never easy when a significant relationship ends. Whatever the reason for the split-and whether or not you wanted it-the breakup of a long-term, committed relationship can turn your whole world upside down and trigger all sorts of painful and unsettling feelings. But there are things you can do to get through this difficult time.

While many of you may be at different stages dealing with the end of a relationship, the issues you face have a great deal in common. Usually there is shock and denial that your partner has ended the relationship. Nasty things like guilt, pain, despair, and self-loathing and depression after a break up can all seem to rear their ugly heads at the same time.

You know how it feels, one minute you think that both of you were made for each other and the next…dumped. Then you cry yourself out of existence, wishing you were prettier or sexier or something, right? Well, dry your tears and stop wasting time.

The first step is to heave that chip off your shoulder, get out of the laziness, get a makeover and stop spending your nights in front of the television watching stupid movies, sad songs or calling your friends for sympathy.

Take the time right after a break-up to examine your life. Get in touch with what’s really important to you. Often in a relationship, especially a long term relationship, our passions and goals get intermingled with those of our partner’s. Sometimes, we can even forget the things that we really love and enjoy.

How soon can you date after a break up? After you feel like you’ve taken enough time to gather your thoughts and emotions, don’t be afraid to get back into the scene- dating, going out or whatever that may be. It’s normal to feel the need for “alone time” right after a break up. Just be sure not to isolate yourself for too long. Try going out and meeting new people when you feel ready. By doing this, you’re not discounting your old relationship or ignoring the fact that you may need closure or time to heal; you’re simply starting the process of moving on.

You really don’t have to count time to date again. You don’t really have to sit in a corner, weep months long, thinking that your past relationship just ended. Go out, interact, see new people. Moreover, dating is healthy!

A person tends to become sensitive and prone to people close to him/her while recovering from a break up. A person you may talk to even 5 of 24 hours a day, may be the one you would easily fall for. The simple reason being he is sensitive to your feelings and is consoling you, hence you feel cared by the person. There isn’t anything wrong in it. Nothing to be scared of! Just beware, if it’s the right person before taking a decision.

Never plan to get back. Mind it, NEVER. This should be the last thing in your head, which actually in most cases-is the first. Think, if getting back was what it was meant to be, why did you break up in the first place? Once a relationship is broken, no matter what the reason was, there is no getting back. Even if you tend to get back, the relationship changes, it’s never the same. The changes that the break up created will always create more differences and hence lead to another split up which may be sorer.

To be continued…

p.s. No break-up is pleasant. But it doesn’t mean you stop living after a break-up.

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Love

Posted: July 9, 2011 in Uncategorized
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What is love? Love is a virtue representing all of human kindness, compassion, and affection. Love is the one emotion that has everyone mystified.  Love is an emotion has had more plays, songs, and stories written about it than anything else. Is is an emotion that has started as many wars as it has ended. There are many legends around this emotion, from the goddess Athena and Helen of Troy to Shakespeare’s Romeo and Juliet.

Love is a symbol of eternity. It wipes out all sense of time, destroying all memory of a beginning and all fear of an end.

It is not often, that one experiences love. And ones who do, trust me you are very lucky.

There are a few very beautiful quotes on the same that I have come across. All of them are worth a look.

~You have to walk carefully in the beginning of love; the running across fields into your lover’s arms can only come later when you’re sure they won’t laugh if you trip. ~Jonathan Carroll, “Outside the Dog Museum”

~Infatuation is when you think he’s as sexy as Robert Redford, as smart as Henry Kissinger, as noble as Ralph Nader, as funny as Woody Allen, and as athletic as Jimmy Conners. Love is when you realize that he’s as sexy as Woody Allen, as smart as Jimmy Connors, as funny as Ralph Nader, as athletic as Henry Kissinger and nothing like Robert Redford – but you’ll take him anyway. ~Judith Viorst, Redbook, 1975

~When love is not madness, it is not love. ~Pedro Calderon de la Barca

~Love is an act of endless forgiveness, a tender look which becomes a habit. ~Peter Ustinov

~Love withers under constraints: its very essence is liberty: it is compatible neither with obedience, jealousy, nor fear: it is there most pure, perfect, and unlimited where its votaries live in confidence, equality and unreserve. ~Percy Bysshe Shelley

~You know you’re in love when you don’t want to fall asleep because reality is finally better than your dreams. ~Dr. Seuss

~I learned the real meaning of love. Love is absolute loyalty. People fade, looks fade, but loyalty never fades. You can depend so much on certain people, you can set your watch by them. And that’s love, even if it doesn’t seem very exciting. ~Sylvester Stallone

~When you’re attracted to someone it just means that your subconscious is attracted to their subconscious, subconsciously, so what we know as fate is two neuroses knowing that they’re a perfect match. ~Jeff Arch, Nora Ephron, and David S. Ward, Sleepless in Seattle

~Love is a gross exaggeration of the difference between one person and everybody else. ~George Bernard Shaw

~When you realize you want to spend the rest of your life with somebody, you want the rest of your life to start as soon as possible. ~Nora Ephron, When Harry Met Sally

~The way to love anything is to realize that it may be lost. ~G.K. Chesterton

~Love isn’t blind, it’s retarded. ~Don Foster and Susan Beavers, Two and a Half Men

The New Home~~Pune

Posted: July 8, 2011 in going places
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“If I were asked to name the chief benefit of the house, I should say: the house shelters day-dreaming, the house protects the dreamer, the house allows one to dream in peace.” -Bachelard, Gaston

My home in Pune is a beautiful place, everything in it. The greenery, the garden, the kitchen garden, of course being destroyed by my dog, Stacey, The stone look, The sliding roofs. There is something about this house that is different from all I’ve stayed so far.

So, there on Day One, I rolled my camera and was out clicking. Here are a few of the beautiful pictures I could collect. It looks aesthetic; trust me, every bit of it.

That marks the entrance towards the main door

                                                               The aged banyan Tree

The area in the Front- Tamarind, Guava, Neem, bushes and others trees i don’t no the names of

The lemon tree with a baby lemon

The ‘to-be’ butterflies

That’s the love of my life- My baby, in the garden

These flowers ❤

The photographs don’t seem to end, and my camera doesn’t seem to stop rolling even till date. I am in love with this place, my home!

I’m staring out into the night 
And trying to hide the pain
I’m going to the place where love
and feeling good don’t ever cost a thing,
And the pain you feel’s a different kind of pain
I’m going home to the place where I belong
where your love has always been enough for me…