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I feel at variance today, eccentric,
The reason I don’t seize,
The world doesn’t give ample reasons,
And the reasons we have are never suggestive of anything…

Reason, an absurd word,
Something that masses call for,
And none have,
Reasons for existence,
Reasons to relinquish life,
Reasons to do a selective affair,
Reason to not do the aforementioned,
Reason to invite some event,
Reasons to make a friend,
Reasons not to make one,
Reasons for incidents,
Reasons for endurance,
Reasons for labor, for sweat,
Reasons to carousal,
And this word revolves around…

But do we have a reasons for all,
Or are we just sole mortals sitting and letting the world run,
Run on whatever is happening,
With the mindset not to interfere?

‘cause I sit here and say, There is a Reason for Everything…
Which we don’t want to know OR we don’t want to speak!

Soil and ashes in the burghal,
Messing up the mortal,
Annoying the human race,
Igniting a part of the never ending them,
The critic inside them arouses,
Judging every part of the existing place,
And there it goes…

The never ending fault-finding,
The clamor to everything around,
The rumble when they see beggars,
The blast looking the street traffic,
The roar on the city police,
The questioning on the unquestionable,
The moaning over climatic conditions,
The cry for work…

The lament of people over the same,
Makes me wonder,
How judgmental we mortal are…
How the human race is just full of complaints?

When a woman gets dumped, her life falls apart and she spends weeks crying on the shoulders of her sympathetic girlfriends. When a man gets dumped, he shrugs his shoulders, switches on the television, salutes his new-found freedom and downs a can of beer.

This is something we all think and hear, but NO, it isn’t true. Despite of the sex, both sit and weep.

All of you get into a relationship because you feel euphoric love for your partner. You love whatever your partner does. That love makes you feel very good. You experience great joy and feel special. All this changes over a period of time for some of you.

Some or the other day are relationship ends, then what? There starts the period of the ‘so called’ trying to get over. Here, 90 per cent of the people sit as if they have committed a crime of a lifetime. All gulped up, emo-like, tears falling, wondering what to do (not to get over but rather to get back).

It’s never easy when a significant relationship ends. Whatever the reason for the split-and whether or not you wanted it-the breakup of a long-term, committed relationship can turn your whole world upside down and trigger all sorts of painful and unsettling feelings. But there are things you can do to get through this difficult time.

While many of you may be at different stages dealing with the end of a relationship, the issues you face have a great deal in common. Usually there is shock and denial that your partner has ended the relationship. Nasty things like guilt, pain, despair, and self-loathing and depression after a break up can all seem to rear their ugly heads at the same time.

You know how it feels, one minute you think that both of you were made for each other and the next…dumped. Then you cry yourself out of existence, wishing you were prettier or sexier or something, right? Well, dry your tears and stop wasting time.

The first step is to heave that chip off your shoulder, get out of the laziness, get a makeover and stop spending your nights in front of the television watching stupid movies, sad songs or calling your friends for sympathy.

Take the time right after a break-up to examine your life. Get in touch with what’s really important to you. Often in a relationship, especially a long term relationship, our passions and goals get intermingled with those of our partner’s. Sometimes, we can even forget the things that we really love and enjoy.

How soon can you date after a break up? After you feel like you’ve taken enough time to gather your thoughts and emotions, don’t be afraid to get back into the scene- dating, going out or whatever that may be. It’s normal to feel the need for “alone time” right after a break up. Just be sure not to isolate yourself for too long. Try going out and meeting new people when you feel ready. By doing this, you’re not discounting your old relationship or ignoring the fact that you may need closure or time to heal; you’re simply starting the process of moving on.

You really don’t have to count time to date again. You don’t really have to sit in a corner, weep months long, thinking that your past relationship just ended. Go out, interact, see new people. Moreover, dating is healthy!

A person tends to become sensitive and prone to people close to him/her while recovering from a break up. A person you may talk to even 5 of 24 hours a day, may be the one you would easily fall for. The simple reason being he is sensitive to your feelings and is consoling you, hence you feel cared by the person. There isn’t anything wrong in it. Nothing to be scared of! Just beware, if it’s the right person before taking a decision.

Never plan to get back. Mind it, NEVER. This should be the last thing in your head, which actually in most cases-is the first. Think, if getting back was what it was meant to be, why did you break up in the first place? Once a relationship is broken, no matter what the reason was, there is no getting back. Even if you tend to get back, the relationship changes, it’s never the same. The changes that the break up created will always create more differences and hence lead to another split up which may be sorer.

To be continued…

p.s. No break-up is pleasant. But it doesn’t mean you stop living after a break-up.

2011 in review

Posted: January 1, 2012 in Uncategorized

The WordPress.com stats helper monkeys prepared a 2011 annual report for this blog.

Here’s an excerpt:

A San Francisco cable car holds 60 people. This blog was viewed about 1,100 times in 2011. If it were a cable car, it would take about 18 trips to carry that many people.

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What is a woman? Is she a mere body to harass? Is she a toy to play with? Is she somebody you can feel? Is she somebody to satisfy your sexual needs?

In our daily newspapers, rape rears its ugly façade almost every day.  Sometimes, it is a brutal rape and murder by a stranger, gang-rape of a girl by her acquaintances or in many cases rape of a girl by her own father or elderly relatives. It is shocking, amazing and ridiculous.

Where do the perpetrators get such courage and confidence from that they stop a running bus, pull out a woman and leave her by the roadside after raping her, that they trap a foreign diplomat and rape her in a car, that they catch hold of a college student and violate her atop a building even as heavy traffic passes by a few feet below?  How is it that a cop instead of protecting a young girl shuts her inside a police post and does the unthinkable?

The questioning of cops and lawyers put after a case is equivalent to raping them again. Not surprising that they prefer to seal their lips and kill their sense of dignity and honour. And I am not even talking about the numerous others subjected to molestation, groping, eve teasing and degrees of verbal and physical abuse – at the movie hall, in the bus, in crowded bylanes, markets, trains, almost everywhere.

It is more than surprising to witness this in every corner. I put up the question again, what do you think a woman is? Why isn’t she sought as an individual, equivalent or more powerful than a man, but as a mere toy for pleasure?

Love

Posted: July 9, 2011 in Uncategorized
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What is love? Love is a virtue representing all of human kindness, compassion, and affection. Love is the one emotion that has everyone mystified.  Love is an emotion has had more plays, songs, and stories written about it than anything else. Is is an emotion that has started as many wars as it has ended. There are many legends around this emotion, from the goddess Athena and Helen of Troy to Shakespeare’s Romeo and Juliet.

Love is a symbol of eternity. It wipes out all sense of time, destroying all memory of a beginning and all fear of an end.

It is not often, that one experiences love. And ones who do, trust me you are very lucky.

There are a few very beautiful quotes on the same that I have come across. All of them are worth a look.

~You have to walk carefully in the beginning of love; the running across fields into your lover’s arms can only come later when you’re sure they won’t laugh if you trip. ~Jonathan Carroll, “Outside the Dog Museum”

~Infatuation is when you think he’s as sexy as Robert Redford, as smart as Henry Kissinger, as noble as Ralph Nader, as funny as Woody Allen, and as athletic as Jimmy Conners. Love is when you realize that he’s as sexy as Woody Allen, as smart as Jimmy Connors, as funny as Ralph Nader, as athletic as Henry Kissinger and nothing like Robert Redford – but you’ll take him anyway. ~Judith Viorst, Redbook, 1975

~When love is not madness, it is not love. ~Pedro Calderon de la Barca

~Love is an act of endless forgiveness, a tender look which becomes a habit. ~Peter Ustinov

~Love withers under constraints: its very essence is liberty: it is compatible neither with obedience, jealousy, nor fear: it is there most pure, perfect, and unlimited where its votaries live in confidence, equality and unreserve. ~Percy Bysshe Shelley

~You know you’re in love when you don’t want to fall asleep because reality is finally better than your dreams. ~Dr. Seuss

~I learned the real meaning of love. Love is absolute loyalty. People fade, looks fade, but loyalty never fades. You can depend so much on certain people, you can set your watch by them. And that’s love, even if it doesn’t seem very exciting. ~Sylvester Stallone

~When you’re attracted to someone it just means that your subconscious is attracted to their subconscious, subconsciously, so what we know as fate is two neuroses knowing that they’re a perfect match. ~Jeff Arch, Nora Ephron, and David S. Ward, Sleepless in Seattle

~Love is a gross exaggeration of the difference between one person and everybody else. ~George Bernard Shaw

~When you realize you want to spend the rest of your life with somebody, you want the rest of your life to start as soon as possible. ~Nora Ephron, When Harry Met Sally

~The way to love anything is to realize that it may be lost. ~G.K. Chesterton

~Love isn’t blind, it’s retarded. ~Don Foster and Susan Beavers, Two and a Half Men

How exactly would one define a relationship?  The condition or fact of being related; connection or association. In human, specifically a marriage, and in today’s generation words, ‘getting hooked up’.

Each relationship differs from every other. In short, the term relationship differs as to how one perceives the word and how he acts upon it.

A relation is not about you coming upto a girl/ boy and say I love you and then things go the way they were. Neither it is that you show  insane love to the girl for the first few months/ days, give promises and later it is none that you do, but all you do is ignore. No, this isn’t how it will work.

Trust me, 90% people talk to somebody to get into a relation, get to a level of physicality and leave her. Dude?  What? I thought you said you loved her. Is that how you display your love? Really? Probably, you never loved or I should say even liked her.

Most of the relations today are categorized as infatuations and not love. And agreed, they are infatuations. If I sit here to define love, it is eternal. It is divine. It is something that cannot be defined. How easy it is for somebody to say an I Love You. Its just a three letter word and it hardly takes a second. And how easily you buy it? A little drama from the other side, a few poetic lines, a few letters or mails, a fake display of I cannot live without you and there you go.

You float with the relation because the drama and the initial love showing and when you start feeling things going inept, you’d think ‘funny thing I never thought it would go this way.’

The most common reasons you’d get from the other sides and you’d be buying is I was too busy with work. What work, dude? Can’t you spare even a minute? Or probably there seems to be an issue with my phone. Oh really? Isn’t there anybody else having a phone near you? Or you have just one phone at place. Or the most common, I haven’t spoken to anybody else too. Oh yes! So did you say all that to me about love to everybody else too?

Another category of a relation is a long distance relation, which from my point of view doesn’t work in most cases. Talking out from my personal experiences and of others nearby, never even try to make it work. Just in case you are so determined to make it work, always have it planned. And make an assurance that the plan would work. Don’t make plans in the air, like we’d marry after xyz years. Or that we’d have a house here or all that crap. Trust me, it makes no sense. After few months he wouldn’t even bother about your health or whereabouts. Never buy things about long talked about promises. If he plans to do it, he wouldn’t really mention it 24*7. Most importantly, plan about the meetings. If he cannot meet you or you cannot meet him once a month or once in two months, no point. ‘Cause trust me, your relationship is going nowhere if he doesn’t feel like meeting you. If you remember he said you are the most important part of his life, for sure he said this at one point.

Relationship matters continues…